Seduction can fit in the code of good manners and take different forms depending on education, culture, the need to love and be loved, fear of loneliness, fear of remaining single, fear of not having a child, or the desire to be like everyone else.
For a woman to be seductive, she must first get to know herself very well so she can learn a variety of behaviors that highlight her intellectual and physical qualities which she can personalize. Most people prefer to say, “This is me, and people need to like me the way I am.” But this is where the problem is. You are who you are due to all the life experiences you received from your external environment, depending on the circumstances and other people’s behaviors—all of which become a part of you. In short, you are a puzzle consisting of all the people and experiences you have met with in your life.
A course about seduction helps you discover which are the good parts you took on and which are the bad parts so you can hone the best parts of your personality and learn some new behaviors to help you become more seductive.
So to be able to be seductive, you have to work on some aspects related to the conscious or unconscious fears and behaviors which can impact your seductiveness and attractiveness.
These distinct themes are very important when it comes to seduction:
- Fear of loneliness;
- Fear of never finding a partner;
- Fear of being too late to have a baby;
- Fear of being abandoned;
- Fear of being judged by your family or friends or of being considered strange because you do not have a partner;
These behaviors can prevent you from being seductive:
- The way you dress;
- The way you communicate, verbally or non-verbally, tone or words used;
- Dysfunctional eating behaviors (anorexia and bulimia);
- The environment where you try to find a partner;
- The time you invest to find a partner;
- The way you behave with your current partner;
- Sexuality too early or too late;
- Too much or too little sexuality with your current partner;
- The opinions of family, friends or colleagues who advise you, for better or worse, depending on their own experiences;
- The quality and quantity of sleep;
- The quality and quantity of food you eat;
- If you find a type of sport that suits you or not, if you do too much or too little;
- Despair, disillusionment, fear;
- Depression, anxiety or any other form of a psychological disorder.
All of these can make you seductive or not, help you find a partner more easily, or enable you to keep him easily or not.
Constantin Cornea, Psychotherapist and Life Coach