Whether anticipated or not, the death of a loved one leaves scars. Finding balance after such event often seems impossible. Therefore, sometimes help might come from the outside.
The solution in such a situation is far from simple, and it depends on:
- Your character and personality
- Your life plan: family, career, your health, hobbies
- The resources you rely on: family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances
- How the death occurred
- The relationship you had with the deceased
- Your awareness of the depression when it begins, the roots of it and the forms it can take.
All these factors together with others may constitute stepping stones on which a proper treatment plan can be built to help you deal with the mourning.
Seeing a therapist. This will help you clearly identify the personal and internal resources that you can rely on to help you suffer as little as possible and return to your normal in the shortest possible time.
Family. Here we can talk about the direct and indirect support that can come from your spouse, parents or siblings. Also, if you have children, they may be your motivation to move forward. Through their current activities, they’ll remind you how much they need you and how important you are to them.
Career. Time and work-related goals are good ways to occupy your thoughts.
Friends and hobbies. Friends are very important at this time. They need to know how and when to listen to you or to try to get you out and about for all sorts of activities such as theater, films, or other performances.
Remember, you don’t have to deal with it alone.
Constantin Cornea, Psychotherapist and Life Coach
Anda Tudor, Life Coach