Facebook or other social networking sites can be the place to share our feelings and stay up to date on the latest information, but they also represent a trap in which we can easily fall.
From a psychological point of view, the picture painted on Facebook contains a subconscious desire or a need:
- For communication, longing to be flattered because I consider myself a good-looking or talented person,
- To be praised for my level of culture or
- To know what others do,
- To compare myself with others,
- To show off the places where I spend my holidays or the car I purchased.
All these needs lead to a distorted image presented on the website just to show what I think represents me the best–to show myself in a pleasant light to the world. Thus, makeup, silicon, a good angle for photographs, a naked body, a copied image from the Internet or the photograph taken next to an expensive car is a kind of “bait” that shows the need to conquer, precisely because in real life, they fail.
The degree of culture or the possibility of real communication brought by such social networks is almost zero. Culture is represented by a famous quotation that receives dozens of likes but does not change the lives of those who read it. A photograph of a naked girl receives thousands of likes, whether it is real or not, when a real novel is too long and bores readers.
Behind a Facebook account, numerous disorders can hide:
- Histrionic disorder:I have the hottest hairstyle, landscapes, clothing, makeup, etc. I do everything to stand out, to be noticed.
- Narcissistic disorder:I am gorgeous! I look so well in pictures. My photos are the most successful; I have to post as many as possible.
- Dependent disorder:How little likes I have! They are my friends; why they are not giving me more likes? Don’t they care about me anymore?
- Depressive disorder:I cannot believe how well others are doing! I have a miserable life; I am not able to do anything. Nobody cares about me.
- Addictive disorder:I watch what others post and I feel troubled. For this reason, I feel the need to do something, to eat, smoke, etc.
- Anxiety Disorder:Look at others how many things they do! I need to do something, change something. I cannot be so static. I have to live my life!
- Paranoid disorder:I need to be careful; everyone is watching my profile. Whatever they are posting is a response to what I post; it certainly has something to do with me.
- Schizoid disorder:I have a fake account and track everything that happens. Nobody must know that it is me.
The solution? First, detoxify your daily schedule. Internet addiction is similar to alcohol or drug addiction.
If you find that time spent on social networking sites is too high, consult a psychologist. Otherwise, unfortunately, virtual reality will no longer be an objective reality but only an imaginary one. A serious problem will arise when you want to come back and you might have to face the real world.
Constantin Cornea, Psychotherapist and Life Coach